LEADERSHIP SEMINAR
“Be yourself.”It is probably the most limiting advice you can give a leader. Because we are not one single “self”, stable and consistent over time. We are shaped by several forces,several parts,sometimes contradictory ones. This is something I often observe in my coaching work. We build a leadership identity around one role.The decision-maker. The protector. […]
I AM RED
“I’m red. That’s just how I am.”The same sentence after every piece of feedback… until the HR Director called me. Red, green, blue, yellow.I know these personality tools well. They help put words on our preferences and ways of operating.They help us understand our blind spots.They can create real moments of awareness. But they were […]
UNINTENTIONAL IMPACT
I was once told that I could come across as distant.I had no idea I was creating that impact. That sentence came back to me last week, when a client told me about feedback she had just received.People tell her she is nice. Maybe too nice. A word that sounds positive.And yet, it made her […]
NEAR ENEMY AND FAR ENEMY
We instinctively think of brands, poorly made copies, fake bags or counterfeit logos.But our values can be counterfeited too. We easily spot what goes “against” our values.But we are much less able to see what looks like them… and quietly damages them. This idea comes from Buddhism: far enemy / near enemy.The far enemy is […]
NIGHT FURY
“Intense” leaders often end up in one of two boxes: either they are toned down, or they are feared.But what if, instead of judging their power, we helped them learn how to channel it? A client recently asked me a question that stayed with me. “Is there still room, in organizations, for passionate and deeply […]
ANGER
Anger has a bad reputation.And yet, when it is properly understood, it is one of the most underused emotions in leadership. When I say, “I’m angry,” people often hear something else. They hear: “She’s about to explode.”Or: “She’s being aggressive.”But… no. There are two very different statements: I feel anger (emotion).I react in anger (behavior). […]