ABRASIVE LEADERSHIP
“Toxic” is a verdict.“Abrasive” is a starting point. When working with so-called “difficult” leaders, the first obstacle is not coaching.It is the label. Before the work has even begun, words have already been placed on them.“Toxic manager.” Those words immediately trigger shame, defensiveness, denial… or anger.And I understand why. Because behind them lies an implicit […]
THE END OF THE LEADERSHIP PROGRAM
We often wonder whether leadership is innate or learned.What I know is that it is revealed. In December 2019, I joined the Co-Active Leadership Program.24 people. 10 months. One week every 3 months. Sitges, near Barcelona. On paper, this program is deceptively simple:Working on our relationship with ourselves, with others, and with the world. But […]
A SYSTEM TO COACH A SYSTEM
The more complex the system, the more complex the coaching needs to be.Coaching a team alone means reducing a system to the perspective of a single person, and that is a real risk. When I support a team, I am not supporting “a group of individuals in the same room.” I am supporting a system. […]
CO–ACTIVE LEADERSHIP
We often associate leadership with a title, a position in the organization.That’s not how I see it. My conviction is that leadership happens everywhere, and that everyone can embody it. In a team, in a meeting, in a project, in a conflict.And often, precisely at the moment when no one wants to deal with what […]
ANGER
Anger has a bad reputation.And yet, when it is properly understood, it is one of the most underused emotions in leadership. When I say, “I’m angry,” people often hear something else. They hear: “She’s about to explode.”Or: “She’s being aggressive.”But… no. There are two very different statements: I feel anger (emotion).I react in anger (behavior). […]
POLARITIES 2
Polarities in organizations are not a “trend.”They are a symptom, and already a cost. I see it in what is increasingly showing up in my work:Mediations, abrasive leader coaching, interventions after harassment investigations, whether confirmed… or not. Everyone arrives with their truth, their “evidence,” and their story.And the other person becomes the problem. What worries […]
POLARITIES 1
We are becoming incapable of being in a relationship.And social media is training us to be that way. I watched the documentary The Social Dilemma. One study shows how polarities have become increasingly amplified.Especially between Democrats and Republicans, through social media. This is not just about “different opinions.”It is a mechanism. We no longer see […]
Leadership vision
When we talk about leadership, we often think about leading a group toward a shared goal.I define it differently.A leader is someone who is responsible for their world.For what they create, what they allow, and what they keep alive.Even when it is difficult or uncomfortable.Even when there are “good reasons” to protect themselves.This responsibility rests […]
The supervision relationship
While participating in a supervision demonstration, I witnessed an incident between the supervisor and the volunteer who had agreed to be supervised in front of the group. As the supervisor questioned the supervisee about the experience he wanted to explore, the volunteer began to express discomfort and misunderstanding about the process. Although the questioning approach […]
Learning how to reflect
I signed up for a supervision training with the intention of expanding my skills as a professional coach. But although I have always been supervised in my practice, whether individually and/or in groups, I quickly faced a challenge that I had underestimated: learning through reflection. My experience and my professional culture being largely action-oriented, the […]